#myheartylife | 7 – gratitude| success| beauty

February 20, 2018 at 11:46 am 12 comments

Reflecting weekly on the beauty in every day moments, reasons to be thankful and celebrating small successes with the #myhearty life linky.
I’m grateful for ….
Not having to juggle Mothering with a day job.  I resigned from my post last year when my maternity leave with L ended for a number of reasons.  Practically speaking the contract was under review and I foresaw a car journey to a new office across town instead of being able to walk to work, more pressure shared among fewer people and the nature of the support work requiring more emotional energy than I could muster. Emotionally speaking I was finding Mothering second time round an easier, more comfortable and confident experience but a shock in terms of the change it forced in my relationship with E (coupled with him now spending 6 hours of every day at school).   Dividing my time between two children was one thing.  Giving my attention to other people’s priorities and deadlines on broken sleep and rumbling anxiety levels was quite another.  We decided putting the boys first and my mental health was worth the financial sacrifices of me not working.  Thankfully we were already used to living on a low income having been part-time before having children so it didn’t seem all that much more of a shift.  It’s been everything we hoped it would be.  There are downsides most notably not seeing as much of George who’s increased his work load but this new balance is working for us at the moment.  G is better equipped to handle work related stress than I am and is able to single focus because he knows the boys are in good hands.  We’ve always been very equal about who does what at home when we were both working but at this moment in time splitting the worker bee and home bird responsibilities is also working for us!

I succeeded at …
Valuing my efforts even if what I achieve is not exactly what I set out to achieve!  It’s been a slow process to change my perspective about how I use my time and being willing to start something even if I’m not sure I’ll complete it hasn’t been easy.  Let me give you an example,  I decided to follow Krista’s free 30 days of calm programme in January with day 30 falling on my birthday.   For 2 weeks I diligently journalled every day and completed the tasks suggested.  In week 3 I stalled over some of the clean eating challenges that just felt too hard to juggle with small children but accepted the 7 day de-clutter challenge.  By the time my birthday came around I’d missed the last 4 days and had failed the de-clutter challenge to let go of 7 items a day.  However where I might have berated myself for having rubbish will power I congratulated myself on at least trying.  I congratulated myself for letting go of 38 items which I went on to sell on Ebay, pass to a friend and donate to the Charity shop.  I congratulated myself for establishing morning and evening rituals that I am still sticking to despite not actually hitting the finishing line overall.   I am enjoying the journey towards a more calm and focused life without worrying about when I reach the destination.  And it’s all spurred me on to put my effort into my next creative challenge to make a photo book of our wedding pictures because I have been able to buy a scanner with my Ebay earnings (thank you Krista!)

I found beauty in …
George’s music.   The sweetest sounds are truly those where love and friendship exists between the musicians – friends with a genuine love for what they are doing. George has created a music project called Spaces and is writing original songs in 8 historically significant buildings in Gloucester. I was able to pop along to the 4th session last week thanks to my mum and dad coming over for a few hours to mind the boys. It was lovely to see how excited everyone was and feel the genuine warmth and interest of everyone involved. The life blood of G’s project is bringing people together to share ideas and make bigger and better and more beautiful sounds than he could make on his own. What a privilege to be able to share some of the experience (if you’re really eagle eyed you’ll might spot me in the video!)

Further #myhearty life posts are here.  Thank you to Mary at The Hearty Life for inspiration (sadly the linky is no longer running).

Best Foot Forward logoMAY 2018 update – I’m also linking this post to the supportive and positive blogging community that is #BestBootForward hosted by Kate on Thin Ice and Indigo Wilderness.  It’s a weekly linkup for sharing positive celebrations of life, successes through challenge or simply spreading a little cheer.


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12 Comments Add your own

  • 1. anitanee  |  February 22, 2018 at 10:45 pm

    I forget to comment on your blog Nic but I’m continuing to enjoy your beautiful words and stories, you’re such a good communicator and an insightful writer XXX

    • 2. Nip it in the bud  |  February 23, 2018 at 7:27 am

      Thank you Anita, it means so much to receive comments especially from someone who writes professionally. I’ve been questioning the value of blogging when it seems like no one reads it and it takes such a lot of the little child free time I have. O really appreciate your feedback x

  • 3. Rae  |  February 24, 2018 at 8:33 pm

    Im glad giving up work is turning out well for you. I often wish I was in the same position but I am so lucky my mum can have her.

    I look forward to reading more.

    • 4. Nip it in the bud  |  May 16, 2018 at 10:18 pm

      Thank you for commenting Rae (and sorry it’s taken me so long to spot it!). Having family nearby makes all the difference when juggling Mumming and working.

  • 5. Latifa Jamal  |  February 25, 2018 at 1:02 am

    Loving your new posts xx

    On Tuesday, February 20, 2018, Nip it in the bud wrote: > Nip it in the bud posted: ” Reflecting weekly on the beauty in every day moments, reasons to be thankful and celebrating small successes with the #myhearty life linky. . I’m grateful for …. Not having to juggle Mothering with a day job. I resigned from my post last year when my ” >

  • 7. Mary @TheHeartyLife  |  February 25, 2018 at 9:27 pm

    I feel this really speaks to me this week! I always get down on myself if I don’t succeed in the way I’d hope but I like the lesson you have given me in changing perspective!
    Motherhood is hard and I love how you word it, they should be out priority (as well as self care for us) and it sounds like you have made a great decision to not overstretch yourself!
    Thank you for linking up and I hope you have a lovely week x #Myheartylife

    • 8. Nip it in the bud  |  February 26, 2018 at 10:05 am

      We’re so quick to judge ourselves aren’t we! I work so hard to be a positive role model for E and L and forget sometimes that how I treat myself is not always the best example it could be. I’m really enjoying being part of the linky and giving a focus to my writing each week so thank you x

  • 9. Kate on thin ice (@kateonthinice)  |  May 16, 2018 at 4:42 pm

    I salute you. You have so much sussed about life already so I know I can learn from you but I also see you are humble about your striking achievements individually and as a family which also makes me like you instinctively. Looking forward to getting to know you much better and thanks so much for linking up with #Best Boot Forward

    • 10. Nip it in the bud  |  May 16, 2018 at 10:16 pm

      Goodness Kate that’s such a lovely thing to say, thank you. I’m enjoying joining in with #bestbootforward and appreciate all you do with hosting and promoting it.

  • 11. chickenruby  |  May 19, 2018 at 3:47 pm

    glad you’ve found the right balance with home life now you’re no longer working, sounds like you made the right decision #bestbootforward

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