#myheartylife | 8 – gratitude| success| beauty

February 26, 2018 at 10:12 am 7 comments

Reflecting weekly on the beauty in every day moments, reasons to be thankful and celebrating small successes with the #myhearty life linky.

I’m grateful for …
Family, friends and strangers who read my blog posts and are moved to share a comment. It means so much to me to receive feedback. I read a quote once by the late Dr Wayne Dyer along the lines of “be independent of the good opinion of others” meaning pay no mind to hurtful criticism but also have no need of praise for your efforts either. I feel comfortable saying I’m not seeking praise by wishing I had more comments on my posts but that I’d like more of an exchange of thoughts, connecting with people in a less one sided way, having a conversation. I often wonder, to myself or aloud to G, whether it’s an indulgence to use my limited free time to write stories if they go unread. When readers of my blog take the time to comment it helps me to feel I’m having a positive impact in the world in some small way. It may not be of any significance in the world’s eyes but in my eyes anything that brings a smile to someone’s face, a moment of pause to a stressful day or helps someone to consider what is joyful in their life then my writing time is not wasted.

I succeeded at …
Letting go of the idea that my toddler should be sleeping better by now. When you have two children it’s inevitable you compare how well they sleep, eat, talk etc at milestone moments, even if you’ve managed to avoid such comparisons with other people’s children. I had low expectations of L sleep wise as E didn’t go through the whole night without waking until he was 2.5 years old. I still have low expectations of when L will no longer wake me at all but being entirely honest I had hoped for more than 2 hour stretches by now (he’ll be 2 in April). We do co-sleep and breastfeed so at least I’m not pacing the room at night with him but the fractured sleep cycles definitely effect my energy levels, mood and perspective. I’ve learnt the key to managing it is to focus on me not him, practicing good self-care as shared in my first #myheartylife post, so I can ensure a calmer response to the situation rather than feeling the strain of wishing he was different. He wakes for a reason, be it hunger, comfort or fear and until he can tell me more directly what it is milk is his solution for everything and we’ll keep rolling with it.
I found beauty in …
Learning how to use my camera more expertly to capture the beauty of the boys and their curious spirits and cheeky ways. I went for a bimble with Luca in our favourite local gardens with our photographer friend Shane. He helped me work through the limitations of using the automatic camera settings on my DSLR and brave the manual settings with greater understanding and awareness. He ended up taking the shots as L was more at ease with me interacting with him and we used it as a learning tool for how changes of light and background can make all the difference. My priority is capturing ordinary every day moments not getting the perfect shot and I now have greater awareness of how to maximise the beauty of the scene around us while losing none of the essence of the moment.

My other #myhearty life posts are here. Thank you to Mary at The Hearty Life for inspiration (sadly the linky is no longer running).

Best Foot Forward logoMay 2018 update – I’m also linking this post to the supportive and positive blogging community that is #BestBootForward hosted by Kate on Thin Ice and Indigo Wilderness. It’s a weekly linkup for sharing positive celebrations of life, successes through challenge or simply spreading a little cheer.


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  • 1. Mary @TheHeartyLife  |  March 2, 2018 at 1:19 pm

    Yes you are right, it is such a lovely feeling when you read others thoughts on your writings. I especially love the ones where they have gained something positive from it!
    I love how you have succeeded at “letting go” of others opinions and how this has impacted you as a mother. It is so easy to have preconceived ideas and stuff about our kids and how they should be, letting go helps us embrace them as they are and accept what is! I find it hard to let go of others opinions but it definitely makes ys feel better.
    Good luck with the DSLR manual – I only take pics on my phone, I darent venture to a big scary camera ahah That is a lovely pic at the end there x #MyHeartyLife

    • 2. Nip it in the bud  |  March 2, 2018 at 10:06 pm

      I appreciate your comment Mary :o) Sigh the letting go comes and goes and for all my progress I still have those days when perspective slips and tears fall.
      You must have a really good camera on your phone, your pictures are great. I’m constantly dissatisfied with mine which is probably no bad thing if it’s driving me towards my ‘proper’ camera more.

  • 3. MummytoDex  |  March 4, 2018 at 2:31 pm

    So great that you are learning to use your camera and I look forward to seeing more of your ordinary moments shots from now on. I don’t have a DLSR and wouldn’t have a clue how to use one so am really in awe of you!


    • 4. Nip it in the bud  |  March 4, 2018 at 4:51 pm

      Thanks, it’s the ordinary moments I enjoy snapping. G bought my DSLR 3 years ago and it’s taken til now to muster the courage to use it more and leave the safety of my Lumix digital camera. I’m sure there’s yet more frustration in store but I’m excited about my lightroom disc arriving soon :0)

  • 5. Everloving Dad...........................................and Mum  |  March 5, 2018 at 11:29 am

    My wife and I are the parents of 3 children. Being the father (at work)I was not so involved with their up bringing as the mum although I don’t recall many nights of poor sleep patterns for the children or the parents. With comparisons to other mums it is not easy to avoid, agree or disagree. Our children are now parents themselves and each has expressed different comments on the subject of children as they grow. Your blog in itself creates comments for your readers to think about, whether to discuss, change or even avoid thoughts, ideas and the like that they have.
    As regards your camera activity, although you can improve on the quality of the photos you take, you will never find it easy to take candid snaps of yourself with your boys. This will normally be achieved by G or someone else. Don’t give up on doing the blog.

    • 6. Nip it in the bud  |  March 5, 2018 at 11:41 am

      Thank you for taking the time to comment and join the conversation, I appreciate it. I especially like your last encouragement not to give up blogging x

      I shall have to learn to use the tripod and a remote if I want to be in more photos as G is hopeless at thinking to take pictures and when I ask him to I’m always disappointed with the result!

  • 7. #myheartylife | 11 | Nip it in the bud  |  March 17, 2018 at 12:25 pm

    […] ..prioritising sleep on my one child free morning. On a Tuesday I love to start my day with a swim. Night times with Luca can be exhausting and this week I was tired and headachy the moment my eyes opened on my swim morning this week. I […]


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