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living with intention – 10 questions that help

Happy first day of Spring. I’m sure I’m not the only one for whom 2018 seems to be flying by? I was flicking through my journal this morning as my daily thought dump has fallen by the wayside. I was reminded of this lovely little reflective ritual I adopted for the first time at the start of the year. I’m sharing it to remind me to make it an annual habit from this year onwards and because it might be something you’d find useful in 9 months time. I think it’s a nice alternative to making well intentioned new year resolutions to review the year you’re saying farewell to. I highly recommend reading the full article article by Daisy U on the No Sidebar blog click here

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10 questions to live with intention – an end of year review

1. What makes this year unforgettable?

2. What did you enjoy doing this year?

3. What/who is the one thing/person you’re grateful for?

4. What’s your biggest win this year?

5. What did you read/watch/listen to that made the most impact this year?

6. What did you worry about most and how did it turn out?

7. What was your biggest regret and why?

8. What’s one thing that changed about yourself?

9. What surprised you the most this year?

10. If you could go back to last January 1st, what suggestions would you give your past self?

I don’t wish to share my answers to all of these questions (perhaps I will come January 2019 when I’m comparing notes) but here are the first 3 answers at least. It’s certainly good to be reminded of the things I’m grateful for. It may change day to day but ultimately the rock on which all my experiences are grounded is the strength of my relationship with George. Ever grateful to be going into each New Year with him by my side.

”Some of the things that made 2017 unforgettable: Euan turned 5. I celebrated my birthday with friends for the first time in over a decade. Luca had an earthside birthday and then a 1st birthday. We went to the Isle of Wight, camped on Exmoor National Park and visited family in Germany. Euan and I grew veg at the allotment. We had a half term adventure to the Science Museum with cousin Kian. Euan won best costume for his BFG outfit on World Book Day. I chose not to return to work. A dear friend got married. One of my photos was published in the Children in Need ”This is Britain” photo book. All sorts of terrific things. The realisation that I don’t need to give energy to upsetting things. I started to let go”

”I enjoyed all of the above. Getting back into blog writing. Taking photos. Having a really good connection with the boys. Committing to a monthly Hand in Hand parenting group.”

”I’m grateful for George. Supporting me with the tough stuff even though he doesn’t always get why anxiety makes it tough. Gifting me Tuesday mornings for time alone. Working full time so I don’t have to. Telling me I’m a great Mum. Loving our boys as fiercely as I do.”

March 20, 2018 at 2:52 pm Leave a comment

how it feels sometimes parenting a 3 year old

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Trust him.

Fretting. Comparing. Fearing. Worrying. Judging. Wanting. Hoping. Wishing. Lacking. Erring. Deliberating. Procrastinating. Postponing. Trying. Working. Modelling. Learning. Grieving. Sickening. Incapacitating. Immobilising. Paralysing. Frustrating.

Trust him. Let go. Re-frame.

Invigorating. Dreaming. Bettering. Moving. Touching. Giggling. Tickling. Imagining. Creating. Making. Baking. Legoing. Cycling. Walking. Dawdling. Scooting. Dashing. Swimming. Splashing. Bathing. Reading. Singing. Dancing. Collecting. Drawing. Sticking. Cutting. Pegging. Mixing. Painting. Brushing. Helping. Wondering. Umming. Ahhing. Watching. Waiting.

Trust myself.

Struggling. Saddening. Maddening. Gladdening. Improving. Growing. Capturing. Memorising. Building. Breaking. Sitting. Playing. Sticking. Recharging. Giving. Never ending. Loving.

Trust him. Anxiety’s a liar.

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2015. I remember the day I wrote this. George was away and I was having a tough time responding patiently to Euan’s craft making meltdowns. In a moment of pause later, while he was absorbed in his drawing, I wrote out all the words I was feeling. The words that screamed “not good enough”, filled me with sadness and made me question my worth as a Mother. I took a deep breath, looked at him absorbed in his drawing, and thought of all the words I was experiencing. And slowly my load felt lighter. Trust him.

March 16, 2018 at 10:54 am 5 comments


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