unbecoming

Ageing is an extraordinary process - David Bowie quote copySometimes a blog post writes itself because someone else hits the nail on the head so hard you can’t ignore it or say it any better!  This David Bowie quote and the additional thoughts shared by Glennon Doyle on Instagram today is one such post.
It also adds meaning to a post titled ”Unbecoming” that’s been in my draft folder for many months that begins

”Maybe the journey isn’t so much about becoming anything.
Maybe it’s about unbecoming everything that isn’t really you, so you can be who you were meant to be in the first place”
(author unknown)

Some days I marvel at how far I’ve come, dealing with anxiety, work related stress, infertility, baby loss and the unexpected bone wearying exhaustion of  being a parent.  Some days I wonder why I’m still triggered by things from my childhood, teens and life pre-children.  I take comfort at least that I am discovering, painfully and slowly, that there’s always something to be learnt from our mistakes.   Growth only comes from walking the difficult path to challenge the person formed in the shadows of the opinions of other and encourage the person you really are to wriggle free and into the light.  Perhaps thats what the phrase ”Life begins at 40” really means?

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My boys are asleep upstairs and I shall soon crawl into bed between them and end my day counting my blessings. I’m always too tired to read and if I try to by day L just bats the book out of my hand but the one book I’m getting glimpses of at the moment is Brene Brown’s ”Braving the Wilderness – The quest for true belonging and the courage to stand alone”  I’d forgotten what the book was actually called and when I re-read the quote about unbecoming was reminded instantly of it. It seems to me that the journey to unbecoming is on the same road as true belonging.  A journey that enables you to be so comfortable in your own skin that it doesn’t matter to you what anyone else thinks.  So much so you don’t need to belong anywhere or be anyone other than your beautiful, unique self.
Brene Brown Authenticity quote

January 12, 2018 at 10:46 pm 1 comment

2017 in pictures

I’d completely forgotten about this new year tradition until I saw Julie’s 2017 highlights post at Little Cotton Rabbits. I’ve been inspired by her lovely tradition of looking back over the year since 2011 and am grateful for the nudge to do so again for 2017. I feel so old saying it but… each year seems to fly past quicker than last. It’s so nice to flick back through my photos and reflect on the many lovely occasions we’ve had with our boys, most just pausing for a minute in ordinary every day moments. I still find it amazing that we get a second run at this parenting malarkey with Luca after the struggles we went through to have Euan. Hoo-bloomin-ray I say for another year watching these two grow into such beautiful, sweet natured human beings.
2017 in pictures collage
L to R Jan to Dec: E’s 5th birthday, my 42nd birthday, E winning ‘best costume’ for his BFG outfit on World Book Day, L’s first birthday, E climbing a tree with cousin Zac at a family wedding, annual holiday to the Isle of Wight, back on the allotment with E and Dave, visiting cousins Kim and Tom in Germany, weekend in Somerset with cousin Kian, attending the wedding of a dear friend, my photograph being chosen by photographer Rankin to feature in ”This is Britain” photobook, Euan building his first snowman.

As I find the passing of time measured by E’s hair so interesting indulge me for a moment if you will as I re-share the collages for 2016 and 2015 too!
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Collage - 2015 in pictures 4B
Previous years in pictures: 2014, 2013, 2012, 2011

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an OXO stocking fillers gift guide

I’m feeling quite relieved that I’m on top of my Christmas preparations this year. I wanted to spread the cost by starting early and make sure I had time and energy for the 12 days of December when the kindness elves come to stay. So most presents have been purchased and stashed including the bits and pieces for the boys stockings from Santa. I’ve yet to make Luca a Christmas stocking (I’m not that organised!) and thankfully I wrote a blog post about how I made Euan’s Christmas stocking a few years ago so it should be simple enough to fashion a second one. With the extra time on my hands I’ve been able to have a rummage around the OXO elves Christmas sack to bring you a new stocking fillers gift guide for 2017. Some of the OXO items recommended in previous years are still available and some of those items continue to be our favourite kitchen gadgets (see links at the end of this post for a little reminder of further OXO gadgets). The gifts we’ve trialled for you this year are all under £15 and our absolute favourite is less than a tenner. Gift 1 – 9” tongs with heat reisistent silicone heads, £13.00
I’ve been meaning to add a pair of tongs to my utensils pot since attending a ”low carb, high veg” cookery class at the Foodworks Cookery School while pregnant with Luca. We made a vegetarian lasagne with cooked cabbage leaves instead of pasta sheets and the tongs saved scolded finger tips. I recreated the recipe to try out our new tongs and found them easy to use and they lock for convenient storage. Luca enjoyed playing with them too of course so what’s not to love about a kitchen utensil that doubles up as a toy! Gift 2 – Steel angled jigger, £8
This is my number 1 kitchen favourite this year. It’s been designed to measure small pourable amounts accurately and you can see the measurement markings, in ml and tbsp, while looking straight down into it. On the OXO website it’s advertised as a cocktail measure but we’ve found all sorts of other uses for it like making salad dressings or simply to help monitor the nutrient value of the fluids we use. I use an app called MyFitnessPal, a free diet and exercise tracker, to become more aware of the nutrient value of the food I eat. I’ve been reducing carbs and increasing fats and combined with walking more I’ve seen a gradual shedding of the last of my baby weight (google ‘Grain Brain’ or ‘Keto diet’ if interested in the science behind that). It’s great using the steel jigger to measure small amounts of fluids instead of guessing or counting in teaspoons. For example, I’d been estimating a 30ml measure of milk in my tea when in fact I take double that, a difference of 100+ calories across my 3-4 cups a day (that’s equivalent to a couple of biscuits added on or a 30 minute walk to take it off). It’s a really handy tool to have in the cutlery drawer and it even doubles up as the perfect toddler size clutchable snack pot. Gift 3 – Beak ice cream scoop, £13
My boys love ice cream, especially G who’s been instructed to eat it in secret so the little ones don’t develop his insatiable sweet tooth! Thankfully E and L love the novelty of anything yummy frozen and served nicely and happily tuck into whizzed up frozen fruit. Zero added sugar, zero fuss. The only effort comes in the having to remember to put the bananas in the freezer the night before. Our home made fruit ice cream provides the perfect challenge for this tough aluminium beak shaped scoop as being dairy free it’s harder and more icy. The curved side edges and pointed end made it easy and it has a non stick coating for easy release. By the time the kettle had boiled to dip the scoop into E had already served up his own helping, evidence enough that this scoop can handle anything. He liked the novelty of the lever that helps to flick the contents out but to be honest it wasn’t necessary as it slipped off into the bowl easily enough without using it. Gift 4 – 3 in 1 avocado slider, £8.75
”The avocado slider splits, pits, slices and scoops for safe and mess free preparation”
. I’ve seen these before and wondered what all the fuss was about! I do get quite messy cutting and peeling my avocados but I figured a gadget wasn’t worth the bother. Turns out I was wrong and it brilliantly removes the stone without any damage or loss of avocado. OXO tried 700 different shaped avocados to perfect their design afterall. All of the avocados I’ve used it on have been a bit too brown and mushy for a nice picture so here’s a video clip of the avocado slicer in action. It really is as simple as it looks.

Gift 5 – Bakers dusting wand, £10. We reviewed the tea ball a few years ago and I find it’s always disappearing from the drawer only to be found in the boys room with jewels or lego treasures in it. OXO have come up with another use for it – as a dusting wand to neatly sprinkle flour, powdered sugar and spices onto drinks and food. The quick open and close twist of the half solid half perforated globe design, prevents clumps, dumps and powdery messes. It’s been sized to fit most flour containers for storage, a tactic I would have had to resort to if we only had one! Our favourite use of it is for sprinkling cinnamon on hot drinks and cocoa powder or cinnamon sugar on our pancakes. I’ve been using gluten free flour lately for baking and these pancakes made with chick pea flour and mashed bananas were topped off beautifully with a little dusting of cocoa. So there you have it, a few ideas to get you started on your Christmas shopping if you’ve not made it to the shops yet. Previous years OXO stocking filler suggestions are shown below and reviewed here and here.
All items are available from the OXO website. Enjoy x
Disclosure: I selected the OXO items in this guide to try. I was not required to write a positive review and all opinions expressed are my own.

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the passage of time

Euan annual photos 2014-2017…measured in joyful giggles, shy smiles and disappearing curls.

This boy fills my heart with joy every day.  He has the sweetest nature, pulls the funniest faces and is kind and helpful.

E’s started going to Beavers so we’ve been talking to him about the promise he will make to be kind and helpful when he’s invested.   I looked at the parent guide to Beavers and asked him if he wanted to make the promise to ‘‘love God” or to ”love the world”.   He said his best friend at school doesn’t believe in God and told E that he shouldn’t either. E said “I told him it’s my choice not his”.  We chatted about belief being a matter of the heart and that Daddy and I were fine with whatever choice he made as it was his promise to keep and not ours. He said “I just think nobody is right, not even me. My picture in my head of God might be different to someone else’s and that’s ok. I am ok with saying “love God” for my promise”. 

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I find it both amusing and extraordinary to think of the conversations 5 year olds have at playtime. Already E and his friend are thinking deeply and curiously and aren’t afraid to ask questions. I think it’s wonderful even if it does catch me off guard sometimes. Thankfully I’m comfortable these days with not feeling I need to have all the answers and often E is quite accepting of a simple answer where I’d have previously fretted about the complexity of owning my response to a searching question. Such brilliant teachers these children of ours and there’s both conversation and wisdom to be found in a simple ”I don’t really know, what do you think?” response.

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